Who are you?
Now, who are you really?
Aside from your name and your job title who are you?
Being authentic is one of those catch phrases that gets bandied about a lot lately and it seems like we are all trying to figure out just who the hell we really are.
Why is that?
Well, generally it is becasue we have spent so much fucking time and energy trying to please somebody, or several somebodies, or everybody. We seem to have got the message early in our life that we just weren’t measuring up so we figured that we needed to be “something else” only that never felt quite right so we tried again and again to be “just right”
Oh my God it’s exhausting just writing that all down. But we’ve all done it haven’t we?
Smiled when we wanted to cry.
Smiled when inside we were seething.
Smiled and said “I’m fine” when we wanted to scream and fall apart.
Smiled, through gritted teeth and smiled and smiled and kept everything so tightly wrapped so you didn’t unravel…. until.
Until you noticed that your face ached and your stomach felt tied in knots and you were looking forward so, so much to that glass of wine ( or three) at the end of the day so you could “relax” only you still felt wound tight as a drum.
Until your body was screaming at you, in constant pain with lots of little, and big, niggles; headaches, back aches, aches upon aches, sore throats, chest infections, skin eruptions. Oh,the list is long.
Until. You. Just. Can’t. Take. It. Any. More.
So you set out to be your most authentic self….. only you have forgotten what that looks like. Or feels like.
In fact you just feel numb and Oh my God, so TIRED.
You have forgotten how to just be you.
You have forgotten how to have fun without alcohol
You have forgotten how to feel.
How do you get back to yourself?
(1) Start saying “no”
If someone offers you something; a piece of cake, a job, the chance to go to a party and you don’t feel a “Hell, Yeah” inside of you then it’s a “Hell, No”. End of story.
doing things out of obligation or a sense of “having to” isn’t fun for anybody so don’t do it.
(2) Spend some time alone
We get so used to being plugged in; to our phones, to the internet, that we forget what it is like to be alone with our own thoughts. try it. Try for one day to disconnect from the phone, from the computer, from other people. Just be with yourself and see what comes up. Figure out what you love to do and do that.
Find some pictures of you when you were a child, the younger the better and try and remember what lit you up then. Chances are there is some part of you that would still love that now.
Take sometime to paly. Splash in puddles. Blow bubbles. Spend the afternoon coloring in. Or ride your bike. Go to the beach.
Spend some time doing nothing much at all that doesn’t involve electronics. You might find you actually like it.
(5) Spend time in Nature
Nature soothes us like nothing else. It takes us back to our primal state and restores our Soul.
Handwriting activates different parts of our brain and helps us to unravel all the ideas, thoughts and beliefs that we have banging around inside our heads. Julia Cameron’s “The Artist’s Way” is a great place to start as it gives you writing prompts for each day.
(7) Book a session
If all else fails book a session with me so we can uncover what is truly holding you back from being your most awesome self.